We had a family stay with us for many weeks when they had to sell their house for not paying taxes. Five extra people in our home and we cooked together, ate together and it was good to help out.
When we left the org the wife came by with two of the children one day when all my family had arrived just before christmas, I invited them in and gave coffee, cake, sweets etc and was very relaxed with her.
She left and told the elders we were celebrating christmas and the elders were going to call on us to check out what she had said. I do not regret helping them at the time they needed help but I was truly saddened by her actions.
I have another friend who is very depressed and has phoned in hysterics more than a couple of times. Each time I go and visit and sit with her to try to listen and calm her down, others in the hall I know do not bother with her as she is considered to much hard work. So I do understand your feelings, you are a genuine and kind person with no strings attached. I am sure your neighbours and friends you have now benefit from having you as a genuine friend.